Every parent dreams of the polite little child who says “please” and “thank you.” After all, your child’s behavior reflects on you. Manners come easily to some children while others struggle. Understanding the basis of good manners will help you teach your child good manners. Good manners, after all, are necessary for people to live together in this world. Gracious manners reflect a loving and considerate personality.
Believe it or not, you begin to teach your child good manners at birth, but you don’t call them that. The root of good manners is respect for another person; and the root of respect is sensitivity. Sensitivity is one of the most valuable qualities you can instill into your child — and it begins in infancy. The sensitive infant will naturally become the respectful child who, because he cares for another’s feelings, will naturally become a well-mannered person. His politeness will be more creative and more heartfelt than anything he could have learned from a book of etiquette. In recent years it has become socially correct to teach children to be “assertive.” Being assertive is healthy as long as it doesn’t override politeness and good manners.
Even two-year-olds can learn to say “please” and “thank you.” Even though they don’t yet understand the social graciousness of these words, the toddler concludes that “please” is how you get what you want and “thank you” is how you end an interaction. At least you’ve planted these social niceties into your child’s vocabulary; later they will be used with the understanding that they make others feel good about helping you. When you ask your toddler to give you something, open with “please” and close with “thank you.” Even before the child grasps the meaning of these words she learns they are important because mommy and daddy use them a lot and they have such nice expressions on their faces when they say these words. Children parrot these terms and understand their usefulness long before they understand their meaning.
From age two to four, what Johnny hears, Johnny says. Let your child hear a lot of “please,” “thank you,” “you’re welcome,” and “excuse me” as you interact with people throughout the day. And address your little person with the same politeness you do an adult. Let your child catch the flavor of polite talk.
We have always made a point of opening each request by using the name of our child: “Jim, will you do this for me?” Our children picked up on this social nicety and address us by title: “Dad, may I…” or “Mom, would you…” When he was eight, our son Matthew made all of these language tools part of his social self. Matthew concluded that if he timed his approach for the right moment, looked me in the eye or touched my arm, addressed me as “Dad…,” and adds a “please” or “may I,” he could get just about anything he wants. Even when I know I’m being conned, I’m a pushover for politeness. Although Matthew didn’t always get his politely-presented wish, I always acknowledged his use of good manners.
The old adage “children should be seen and not heard” was probably coined by a childless person. Include your child in adult goings-on, especially if there are no other children present. When you and your child are in a crowd of mostly adults, tuning out your child is asking for trouble. Even a child who is usually well-behaved will make a nuisance of herself in order to break through to you. Including the child teaches social skills, and acknowledging her presence shows her that she has value.
Stay connected with your child in situations that put her at risk for undesirable behavior. During a visit with other adults, keep your younger child physically close to you (or you stay close to him) and maintain frequent verbal and eye contact. Help your older child feel part of the action so that he is less likely to get bored and wander into trouble.
Language is a skill to be enjoyed, not forced. While it’s okay to occasionally dangle a “say please” over a child before you grant the request don’t, like pet training, rigidly adhere to asking for the “magic word” before you give your child what he wants. The child may tire of these polite words even before he understands them. When you remind a child to say “please,” do so as part of good speech, not as a requirement for getting what he wants. And be sure he hears a lot of good speech from you. Overdo politeness while you’re teaching it and he’ll catch the idea faster. “Peas” with a grin shows you the child is feeling competent in her ability to communicate.
As a Little League baseball coach, I learned to “chew out a child” — politely. When a child made a dumb play (which is to be expected), I didn’t rant and rave like those overreacting coaches you see on television. Instead, I keep my voice modulated, look the child straight in the eye, and put my hand on his shoulder during my sermon. These gestures reflect that I am correcting the child because I care, not because I am out of control. My politeness showed him that I value him and want him to learn from his mistakes so he becomes a better player, and the child listens. I hope someday that same child will carry on these ball field manners when he becomes a coach.
Have you ever wondered why some children are so polite? The main reason is they are brought up in an environment that expects good manners. One day I noticed an English family entering a hotel. The father looked at his two sons, ages five and seven, and said, “Now chaps, do hold the door for the lady,” which they did. I asked him why his children were so well-mannered. He replied, “We expect it.”
The sleep habits of Yahoo! CEO Marissa Meyer were ridiculed on Twitter when she missed a meeting with ad execs because she overslept. While humorous on the one hand, the incident actually proves that lack of sleep affects every level of today’s workforce. It’s estimated that 35 percent to 40 percent of Americans have sleeping problems, and CEOs of mega conglomerates are no exception.
“People are not typically good judges of their own fatigue and impairment; they get used to the problems associated with fatigue and come to believe their lethargy, lack of focus, even ‘micro sleeps’ are normal,” said Dr. Dave Sharar, managing director of Chestnut Global Health, a Bloomington, Illinois, company that provides employee assistance programs.
Employees deal with increased workloads, stress and time-shifting, all of which undermine sleep quality.
What can companies do to help employees assess their sleep and improve both its length and quality, improving their employee’s alertness, productivity and preventing worksite accidents?
“Since poor sleep accounts for more than 30 percent of traffic and industrial accidents, sleep hygiene should be part of a company’s employee health program as much as diet, etc.,” said Dr. Murray Grossan, an ENT and founder of the Grossan Institute.
“For better sleep schedules, companies should require a number of hours worked, rather than a strict schedule where one needs to be at the office at a specific time in the morning,” said Kenny Kline, founder of Slumber Sage, an online mattress and sleep resource.
People prefer different sleep schedules, and have different obligations in the evening and morning that could force them to cut back on sleep if they don’t have worktime flexibility.
Nutrition also can have a big impact on sleep, and eating unhealthy options throughout the day may hinder quality sleep. Workplaces should have healthy snacks available and/or encourage their consumption.
“Companies can also encourage employees to pick a time and place for a restorative, 15-minute, onsite nap,” said Pam Kouri, Chestnut’s Health and Wellness director. “While it’s not always practical at more conventional workplaces, employees can increase the benefits of napping by picking the right time and keeping to it (usually just after lunch) and arranging suitable napping conditions—quiet, dark and cool.”
Senior management could also embrace sleep management as a productivity tool. “A well-rested employee is prepared, alert and performs at a high level, with lower risk of accident and injury,” Kouri said.
The key is both promoting the benefits of self-directed sleep management plans and providing employees with tools and proper guidance, and offering more robust company-sponsored programs that involve in-depth assessments, a personalized treatment plan and counseling to address the underlying problems that might be exacerbating sleep disorders.
Our kidneys are super important for our health. They filter our blood, produce hormones, absorb minerals, produce urine, eliminate toxins, and neutralize acids. So as one of the most important organs in your body, your kidneys deserve some love.
Damage or steady decline of your kidneys can often go unnoticed for years as your kidneys can still do their job with as little as 20% of their capacity. Therefore kidney diseases are often referred to as “The Silent Diseases”. That’s why it is so important to take care of them before it is too late.
Here’s a list of 10 common habits that put a lot of pressure on your kidneys and can cause serious damage over time.
Your kidney’s most important function is to filter blood and eliminate toxins and waste materials. When you don’t drink enough plain water during the day toxins and waste material start to accumulate and can cause severe damage to your body.
Your body needs sodium or salt to work properly. Most people however consume too much salt which may raise blood pressure and put a lot of stress on the kidneys. As a good rule of thumb, no more than 5 grams of salt should be eaten on a daily basis.
Many of us ignore the urge to go because they are too busy or want to avoid public bathrooms. Retaining urine on a regular basis increases urine pressure and can lead to kidney failure, kidney stones, and incontinence. So listen to your body when nature calls.
Scientific studies show that people who consume 2 or more sugary drinks a day are more likely to have protein in their urine. Having protein in your urine is an early sign your kidneys are not doing their job as they should.
Eating a clean, whole food diet full of fresh vegetables and fruits is important for your overall health and a good kidney function. Many deficiencies can increase the risk of kidney stones or kidney failure. Vitamin B6 and magnesium, for instance, are super important to reduce the risk of kidney stones.
An estimated 70 to 80 percent of Americans isn’t getting enough magnesium, so there may be a good chance that you are one of them. Click here to learn more about magnesium deficiencies.
Over consumption of protein, especially red meat, increases the metabolic load on your kidneys. So more protein in your diet means your kidneys have to work harder and this can lead to kidney damage or dysfunction over time.
We have all heard how important it is to get a good night’s rest. Chronic sleep deprivation is linked to many diseases and kidney diseases are also on the list. During the night your body repairs damaged kidney tissue, so give your body the time to heal and repair itself.
Just as salt, caffeine can raise blood pressure and put extra stress on your kidneys. Over time excessive consumption of coffee can cause damage to your kidneys.
Way too many people take painkillers for their small aches and pains, while there are many all-natural, safe remedies available. Excessive use or painkiller abuse can lead to severe damage of liver and kidneys.
Although there is nothing wrong with enjoying a glass of wine or having a beer once in a while, most of us don’t stop after just one drink. Alcohol is actually a legal toxin that puts a lot of stress on our kidneys and liver.
To stay healthy and avoid kidney issues it is important to eat lots of fresh, whole foods and if you keep the above information in mind and avoid these common habits as much as possible, your kidneys will not be under constant stress and your body will thank you for that.
Blood pressure issues are very common in America and it is no wonder that one of the largest classes of prescription drugs are anti-hypertensives – in other words, medications that will bring the blood pressure down to a healthy level. However, not everyone wants to make use of these prescriptions and for those who prefer to treat this condition naturally, there are many ways to do this.
Eat Plenty of Fruits and Vegetables
Every day if possible, “strive for five” – get five servings of fruits and vegetables into the diet. Fresh produce is not only low in sodium, many fresh fruits and vegetables tend to be potassium-rich as well, which lowers sodium’s impact on blood pressure levels. White and sweet potatoes, spinach, citrus fruits and bananas are all particularly high in potassium.
Embrace Healthy Fats
Not all fats are bad. In fact, monounsaturated fats actually help strengthen the heart and are linked to both lower blood pressure and cholesterol levels. Good sources of these fats include olive and canola oil, nuts, and fatty fish like salmon.
Go Whole Grain
Switching from refined products like those that contain refined white flour or white rice is one of the healthiest changes someone can make to their diet. Whole grain breads, pastas and couscous, barley and brown rice are all high in fiber, which is excellent for heart health while refined flours and similar products are linked to obesity, one of the major risk factors for high blood pressure.
Love Your Dairy
Dairy products can actually be great for heart health – as long as they are low fat, that is. Dairy is rich in calcium which is essential for regulating blood pressure. Low-fat dairy will also provide all the nutrients of their full-fat counterparts without the added risk of weight gain or higher cholesterol.
Increase Intake of Legumes
Leguminous plants, a group which includes beans, lentils and peas – are magnesium-rich, and magnesium has been shown to have a direct and beneficial impact on blood pressure. These plants can be especially good for the heart if 4 to 5 servings a week are included in the diet.
Indulge in Dark Chocolate
In small amounts, dark chocolate is also incredibly heart-healthy. Cocoa is rich in antioxidants which in turn stimulate the body to produce nitric oxide, a natural vasodilator. This means that it can relax the blood vessels, expanding their circumference and thus lower blood pressure naturally.
Increasing physical exercise has been linked in study after study to lower blood pressure rates. Benefits are particularly good when people are able to include around 30 minutes of moderate exercise daily.
Blood pressure is a very common problem, but not an insurmountable one. Lifestyle changes like those discussed above allow someone to take charge of their health and be pro-active in maintaining low blood pressure and a healthy heart.
Most people don’t give much thought to their toothbrushes – and if they do, they assume that, because it is used to clean the teeth and mouth every day that it, too, is clean. Wrong! Toothbrushes actually have some ugly secrets to hide which consumers should be aware of. Seven of these ugly truths are discussed below.
Researchers from Manchester University of England recently discovered that an uncovered toothbrush is a harbor for bacteria and can actually contain around 100 million individual bacteria cells. What is even more disturbing is that some of these bacteria include staphylococci, a culprit in many skin infections and e. coli, the cause of gastrointestinal infections and diarrhea.
Many researchers were not surprised by the results above – after all, the human mouth is and always has been a breeding ground for all sort of bacteria. The problem can begin, however, when an imbalance happens between the beneficial and harmful bacteria in the mouth. This imbalance can lead to the formation of plaque and eventually to gum disease.
So, bacteria in the mouth are a fact of life, but as long as a certain balance is kept, generally there is no problem. However, sometimes brushing can actually cause problems because it can push the bacteria beneath the skin in your mouth, where it can foment serious infections. They can lead to recurring illnesses if your immune system is low or somehow compromised.
The Manchester University researchers do not for the most part subscribe to the belief that brushing your teeth harms your health, even if the toothbrush does harbor large concentrations of bacteria. However, they do caution that people think about how their brush is being stored, including how close it is to the toilet. When the toilet it flushed, it can send a spray of water and bacteria into the air, bacteria you do NOT want near your toothbrush.
Toothbrush holders, particularly if they are close to the toilet, can harbor whole colonies of bacteria. Oddly enough, even though people rank the toothbrush holder as a place that it likely to harbor germs, it often gets overlooked when the bathroom is getting cleaned. It is important, though, to clean and disinfect the holder regularly to prevent this problem.
Now that it has been established that toothbrushes are bacteria magnets, what is there to be done? Researchers recommend rinsing the toothbrush after use, drying it, storing it in an upright position and, though this sounds counter-intuitive, not using toothbrush covers, since they, too, can become harbors for germs.
There are several products currently on the market that will sanitize a toothbrush. However, while some of these products have been shown to actually be effective at cleaning bacteria, there remains no evidence to show that keeping the toothbrush sanitized will prevent you from becoming ill.
Toothbrushes are a lot dirtier than many people believe. However, following a few important safety tips like the ones discussed above can keep them healthier and safer for you and your mouth!
1. Making customers wait
Customer impatience isn’t necessarily about how long they have to wait, but the lack of information on how long the wait will be, or a wait time that is longer than promised. Be forthright with customers regarding delivery timeframe and always keep them informed so they know exactly what to expect.
2. Delivering only what you promise
Keeping your promise is just the bare minimum. Murphy contends, “… you need to wow them every time by offering [and delivering] them even more than they think is fair.”
3. Being hard to contact
Can many of your customers’ questions and needs be met online or by calling the home office? Sure. But if they want to talk to you, nothing else will satisfy them. Don’t make customers work to get in touch with you.
4. Selling to them constantly
One of the great challenges of effective selling is walking that fine line between “pursuing every opportunity” and operating in a constant, full-on sales mode that customers find both exhausting and obnoxious. One way to avoid sales fatigue is to consistently bring valuable information and insights to customers, ensuring a balance to your sales agenda.
5. Being secretive and opaque
When left in the dark, customers tend to assume the worst. Be as transparent with customers as possible. It’s a critical element in building trust.
Ekiti State chapter of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) faction loyal to Senator Ali Modu Sheriff has carpeted the threat by Governor Ayodele Fayose of the State to dump the party should Sheriff win at the Supreme Court.
The party said “we shall not miss him.”
The faction, in a statement made available to journalists in Ado Ekiti, on Thursday, alleged that “one very painful fact which is driving Governor Fayose away from PDP is that it is inconceivable for him to have lost control of the party structures in Ekiti State from ward to Local Givernment and state level in accordance with a federal high court judgement.”
In the statement signed by the deputy chairman, Olasunkanmi Ogunbiyi and secretary, Ilesanmi Obe, the faction claimed that “the exit of Fayose from PDP will not adversely affect the fortunes of the party,” adding that “all the ward, local government and state executives as well as the state’s leadership caucus remain intact.”
The faction also said “most of the elected and appointed officials at all levels of government have resolved to remain in PDP and are not following Fayose if he eventually defects again and chase shadows as usual.”
According to them, “all the 177 wards and 16 local governments still believe in the PDP as the party that delivered and performed best so far since the creation of Ekiti State.
“The incontrovertible fact is that on the two occasions he won the governorship elections it was the PDP that provided the platform and opportunities for him.”
Ogunbiyi and Obe recalled that Fayose had once tried his popularity when he contested for the Central senatorial seat while in Labour Party, noting that he “failed woefully and this proves that the platform aided his victories and not his so-called popularity.”
They said, “if he decides to leave PDP again, we shall not miss him as the party remains strong and in fact under the able leadership of Chief Clement Awoyelu, the first state chairman of the party,” saying “when Fayose dumped the party in 2007, we went ahead to win the governorship election and all the nine National Assembly seats and 13 House of Assembly seats without him.”
The Registrar, Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board, JAMB, Professor Ishaq Oloyede, yesterday in Lagos said that out of the 1,648,429 million candidates writing the ongoing UTME, the results of 1,048,914 have been released.
This was just as he also announced the extension of JAMB’s portal for registration, adding that it will finally close its registration portal on 28th May.
He said that in addition to the 1,048,914 results that have been released, over 30,406 results are also ready for upload before midnight today.
He said: “As at today, 1,648, 429 are taking our examination and we have released the result of 1,048,914. That is the result we have released up till yesterday.
“On the first day, we released the results of Sunday because anything you call CBT, the results are ready, but for environmental reasons, we do not release the results immediately.
“That is to ensure we go through the CCTV camera to see whether there are report of malpractice and prevent the situation whereby those who do not pass become agitated at the CBT centres.
“We have released the results of Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and we are going to release today’s result before 12 midnight. This morning, the results of 30,046 will be release.
Asked the performances of candidates results so far, he said: “The candidates have not done badly from the resrults released so far.” As soon as the last person finished writing the last paper today, we will upload additional over 30,406 results before 12 midnight today.”
Oloyede, also disclosed that JAMB’s portal for registration has not closed, adding that it will finally close its registration portal on 28th May.
He said that he got the mandate from the Senate few weeks ago to increase the UTME registration period by one month, which according to him will elapse on 28th of May.
“As I speak, we have registered additional 1,100 candidates,” he added.
Oloyede who disclosed during this during his visit to one of the CBT Centres in Lagos said that in 2018, fingers print may no longer be required.
He explained: We have now been able to catch those people who registered two people with the same names. The impersonator and the one being impersonated went in collaboration with the CBT centres after screening them.”
He said: “Both the impersonator and one being impersonated used each fingers. While, the impersonator used two thumb fingers, the impersonated used eight fingers to register.
Thus, we have ten registered fingers and the ten fingers were not from one person.
“In some centres, when we tested all their fingers, we discovered that they were impersonator who had used two of their fingers thumbs in both hands.
“By next year, we may not use finger print, there are other technologies whereby with the technology, everything about the candidate is captured. We need to move in that direction.”